Online dating may seem to be a very attractive option for guys who are hoping to find a mate. But the process can be both time-consuming and inefficient. For that reason, you will not find it discussed much in dating books. In other words, as a dating strategy, it does not rate highly on my list. If you are a guy who is pondering online dating, I am going to show you why you might want to rethink that, and consider an alternative means to dating success.

I do not need to tell you that your number one priority when it comes to seeking out a potential mate is to start with a selection of promising candidates of the opposite sex. Because of this, online dating might seem to offer a straightforward way to get started. You register with an online dating service, you fill out your personal dating profile, and you see whether the service can pair you up immediately with a list of prospects.

But often what guys discover is that the ladies on the other side of those profiles are not quite the people they portray themselves to be. I am not saying that they are imitating someone else, or that their profile is faked in order that the woman can advertise some other kind of service though that can happen. What I am saying is that online dating personas tend to be misleading. It is a consequence of the fact that the entities filling out those online forms are real human beings.

We all would like to be seen in our best light by members of the opposite sex, and women even more so than men. Because of this, and because of the ever-growing competition to find a mate online, the online dating persona tends to get distorted away from the real person, and more towards someone who gets more “hits” because of the compelling content that ends up in their dating profile.

As a guy, you will be probably be interested foremost in how attractive your potential mate appears to you. Only after you get physical attractiveness checked off the list will you settle down and check out what it is that your prospect wants to reveal about herself. Unfortunately, photographs in online dating profiles are often posted on the basis of how special they make the person in the photograph feel when looking at the picture – and they feel this way because the picture gives them an entirely different view than what they see when they look in the mirror!

So you will have to take those online pictures with a grain of salt. Another big problem is that of geography. There are a lot of attractive ladies out there, but unless they happen to live in your neck of the neighborhood, why would you be prepared to expend a great deal of effort to seek them out as a prospective mate? You cannot easily get to know a person for whom face-to-face interaction means that you must carve out some real traveling time from your week.

Given that your prospect really has to live locally, what is the chance that you will find her on your specific online dating service, and not on one of the other hundred or so that she might be signed up for – if indeed she even thinks that online dating is a sensible approach to locating the man of her dreams?

There is a considerably better strategy for finding the right girl for you, and it does not include online dating at all. In fact, it is based on a technique that has worked for men for thousands of years. You just need to become the man that women in your neighborhood are already looking for. Then you step outside your door and begin a campaign of visibility. The rest takes place automatically. Of course, the devil, is in the details.

In his book (see my How To Become An Alpha Male review page) John Alexander has done a more than adequate job of reminding us guys what it is that women are looking for in a man, and how you ought to go about demonstrating to them that you have it. Because once they believe that you have what they are searching for in a guy, they will take all the action that is necessary to make you their man. You need only apply the brakes a little so that they do not end up trampling you in their mad stampede to get your approval.

So, perhaps instead of buying an online dating guide, you can think about grabbing a resource that is a LOT more likely to secure you the kind of relationship success that you are hoping for. John has helped thousands of guys attain this goal, and I know that he can help you too.

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